Although our boy friend/girl friend, spouse or friend is the best person we can ever find, all of us feel the symptoms of jealousy at least once in our relationships. It's not a sick feeling at all, but the strength of this feeling is the important part.
Jealousy is a mixture of emotions actually. Sometimes it can manifest itself as anger, unhappiness, anxiety, loneliness or suspicion. So all these feelings are hard to control. And our jealousy may cause some unwanted results about our relationships. Sometimes it starts with little jokes, then it gets a bit serious and when you don't stop it you may end up with an unnecessary quarrel. On the other hand, some think that jealousy is a hint about the strength of love and care. When their partner doesn't get jealous about anything, they start to suspect about their partner's love. What must be the exact balance of jealousy? If we are a burning jealous, how can we discard this feature?
First of all, we should start our job by understanding our emotions. What kind of feelings capture you when you get jealous? If you are getting angry, it's because you never hope your partner to do something that hurts you. If you feel fear, that's because of the imagination of losing your deary. So whatever your feeling is, allow yourself to feel it. Recognize your feeling to deal with it. Then, share it. But control yourself and don't be incriminating. Just tell how you feel and try to use "I" instead of"you". Don't be blaming, just express your sadness or anger or whatever you feel.
Identifying the results of your jealousy is another good way. Because there is always something that we learn from our experiences. Ask yourself,"What was the necessity of my envy?" "Does it help anything?" "What was the reason for my jealousy?" by asking these questions, you will start to understand the things that makes you jealous. And a door will open for you to overcome them.
Some of our thoughts that cause jealousy can be false or misunderstood. When you examine your beliefs, you can get over your jealousy. For example, that is a common belief which is mostly a rubbish:" She is so beautiful/ handsome, I am not enough, there must be someone else in his/her life". This thought comes out of your self-distrust. When you stop creating such scenarios, you can feel better, and your jealousy will fly away. Be in peace with yourself, if your partner is with you, that is because"you" are important for her/him.
Our way of thinking designates the quality of our lives. We had better increase the taste of our lives and relationships, and stop jealousy as quick as we can. Before it starts wire pulling!
